More Kids?

My husband and I have been married for 8 years and have a 3 year old son together. We want more kids, but by the time we put the one that we do have to bed, we don’t have the energy to try to have another. On the weekends, we are either relaxing or running around and still don’t make love to each other. I know it’s about making time, but how do you do that when there is ALWAYS SO MUCH TO DO?! P.S. We are still attracted to each other, so that’s not the issue.

Author: MIH

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  1. Hi MIH, first of all I want you to know you are not alone in this. My husband and I have 2 kids. One is 4 and the other is 16 months old. Honestly since we had my youngest one we have been lacking a little in the romance department not because of attraction but because of time. You are right you have to make the time but also like you said it seems impossible some times. What we have been doing is we set a date every 2 weeks to have a date night. We plan them about a month in advance so that way it is on the calendar and is just kinda part of our routine. We have also made those days our family days before we actually have our date night. And I know that sounds like more work then it really is. What we do is spend that day just relaxing with the family. It is kinda a do whatever you want day. If we want to lay around and watch movies all day, or go to the park and play, or even go somewhere like the zoo or something for the kids we do and then after a relaxing day we get a sitter to come over a couple hours before the kids bed time and we head out for a night dinner just us two. We usually only stay out those two hours to save on the sitter and when we get home it is still just us because the kids are already in bed. It makes it much easier to be romantic if you have not been stressed all day and you have plenty of alone time in that night. Now do not get me wrong I am not saying that this is easy because it is not. It is a lot of planning, and trying to relax for a whole day in itself is hard. But trust me it is worth it. We are working on having another baby as well and it is work. But again having even that one night with just me and him has really helped us out in all matters of our relationship. I hope this has helped at least a little.

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  2. Such great advice! Thanks KFR!

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